I wrote “Don’t Be A Twitter Creep” a couple months ago. I’ve never been a fan of the way some people, primarily but not entirely men, use the Internet as a tool to creep on women. I’ve tried to make it as plain as day to guys out there that their poor behaviour isn’t welcome. More to the point though, I wanted to make it clear to women everywhere that they don’t have to put up with it. Unfortunately, many women do put up with arrogant and creepy men. They dismiss rather than respond. As a friend noted to me a couple of days ago “most people on Twitter, from what I’ve seen, prefer avoidance over conflict.”
I’ve come to appreciate the many strong, independent, intelligent, beautiful women I’ve met since into Twitter‘s social side. Those women should be appreciated for all the positives they bring to this world. They SHOULD NOT be made to be uncomfortable. They SHOULD NOT be in a position where they have to spare the feelings of some jackass who can’t take a hint. There shouldn’t be a double standard when it comes to confrontation. Guys for the most part vocalize when they’re not happy about a situation. At no point do they think “well it’s not a big deal.” In many cases they’ll make it very clear publicly they won’t put up with any bullshit. It can be embarrassing for the parties they’re talking about but it sure as hell makes a point. In this day and age, women are EQUALS! Taking abuse, whether on a low/subtle level or not is UNACCEPTABLE!
Do yourself a favour ladies; go on offense.
You want to know why creepy people go through private channels? They don’t want to be exposed. If some jerkoff on Twitter tries to run public game on a ton of women, they’re all going to see it. If the same guy runs the same game through DM on the same girls, only fraction of them will put it together. Let’s be real here; girls talk and Ontario’s Twitter scene, as big as it is, is actually very small in terms of a community. Your creepy ass is getting EXPOSED whether you know it or not. Thing is though, if you don’t run with a group that’s connected to everyone else you could very well be victimized by creepy guys. Nobody should have to take it though. SAY SOMETHING! BODY THEIR FUCKING BUSINESS! If you don’t like their behaviour then call that shit out. EVERYONE needs to SEE inappropriate behaviour as it happens. This isn’t something to be condoned and then whispered about among a couple of girlfriends. Tolerance is akin to enabling. Creepy people run the creep on the down low. Shine some light on them and send the roaches scurrying.
In the end social interaction is a two way street. Creepers will run game *shudder* but if it’s unwelcome then it’s got to be shut down with the quickness. If you want to use discretion on the first go around more power to you but seriously if you get a shitty vibe then expose it. Creepers are living their lives in some kind of magical fucked up bubble where they don’t see the awful imprint they’re leaving on others. I love to burst the creepy bubble. I don’t care because if they want to beef me I’m more than happy to back up what I write in person.
I don’t need people in my life who make my friends uncomfortable or awkward.
Ladies; neither do you.